I had an enlightening conversation with one of my clients today about how I feel when a past lover contacts me. I believe, and it always comes true, that past lovers (however the relationship ended) will always, at some point, reenter my life.
Now in the past I was actually over the moon and slightly proud of the fact that a past lover had contacted me. It kinda of made me feel good inside – you know – that they actually were still thinking about and hey, even still wanted me. Recently though when past lovers have contacted me Ive got annoyed and felt unsettled that they have come back into my life. My response is always nothing, I delete the message and get on with my life.
So this got my brain circuits a-whirring and I came to the sudden realization that I was putting my self worth into past lovers hands. I consider myself a wise woman and I do know deep down what and why the past lover has contacted me for – that will be sex of course!
Now Im all about upholding my self worth at every beautiful twist and turn of my life and this hit me hard that I was using their contact to make me feel good – when I know deep down that the only person that can truly make me feel good is myself!
They are past lovers for a reason, the relationship was finalized for good reasons and however much I hurt at the time, time does heal my love wounds and I do always come out of these relationships much stronger and wiser. So why would I ever go back and why would I feel good when they made contact with me again?
This has been an interesting and enlightening lesson to me and one, which I feel, will have ripple effects all through my life.